This is a road we never would have chosen. So when people ask how are we coping we just say: well we didn't get a choice. It is such an awfully awful situation that it doesn't seem 'real' at least half the time. When the truth suddenly confronts us we weep and wail and wonder how we will keep going in a situation like this. But we will keep going and we hope we will be able to be more loving and more kind because of the suffering.
This week has been a blur and flurry of organising and liaising with professionals involved in the funeral. Chris in black humour mode today, stood in a formal wear hire place and said how difficult it was to have a darling son die on a Monday and have to try on clothes on the Friday. As he grumbled and smiled at the same time we remembered Ben and how appropriate and good quality clothing mattered to him. He would not have been impressed if Chris dressed in a poor fitting op. shop suit with the trouser legs too short: he would approve of the hired black and well fitting suit.
All the emails and SMS's, cards, meals and flowers are keeping us feeling surrounded by people's care and concern. It helps a lot. Thankyou.
Thursday, December 11, 2008
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Nancy, Mary, John, Dean, Eric, Stephen, Gina & Dennis all members of a home fellowship, who have prayed for Ben & his family & friends.
ReplyDeleteWe were deeply saddened to hear of our brother Ben's struggles but
greatly encouraged & inspired to know he kept the faith.
Although most of us have never met Ben personally, we know we will meet him soon.
We now pray come soon Lord Jesus, come soon and take us to be with you for all eternity.
May God's blessings & comfort be with you all at this time.
We send you our love and prayers at this time of grieving and remembering. May God give you His strength for each new day. Love
ReplyDeleteHelen & Andrew Reid
OK, then - Gus will make sure he wears shoes to the funeral!
ReplyDeleteIt is so refreshing to be able to laugh inbetween the tears. Thank you.
Love, Fiona McLean
Although I know in my head that this has actually happened, every time I read this blog I have a little moment of disbelief. When I stare at photos of Ben's disarmingly beautiful smile, part of me feels like it just can't possibly be real.
ReplyDeleteBut then I read of the deep ache inside those closest to him, tears well in my eyes, and I'm brought back to reality. It really is just awfully awful.
Big prayers for the continued preparations for Sunday and beyond,
love Marissa
Lindy, thanks for your honesty. I can relate to the nakedness of your comments. They bring tears and describe a grief so huge. Yet somehow in the tears and comments is a strong hope and even bigger love.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing.
Love Philippa